Algunas cosas importantes que aprendí de mi amiga soltera – she in blazer

Después de compartir parte de mi vida con una adorable persona 14 años continuos, te das cuenta que hay muchas cosas  de tu vida que prácticamente se mimetizan con la de esa persona tan amada, sin darte cuenta viviendo en una burbuja de amor aveces te llegas a perder en la vida y en la forma de ser de esa persona.

Actualmente tengo muchas amigas solteras que han pasado por distintos estados emocionales en una relación y de las que me encantaría poder aprender la actitud seguridad e independencia con la que han aprendido vivir actualmente con ellas mismas.
De ellas he aprendido:
A disfrutar de mi tiempo a solas. Parece que actualmente decir que vas al cine sola, a tomar una copa sola o de viaje sola suena como un nivel crítico de soledad y desesperación. Pero no es así, saber disfrutar de tu propia compañía te llena de seguridad de momentos de reflexión y sobre todo de mucha independencia.
Saber rodearte de las personas adecuadas. Y creo que esto viene de la idea de que saber apreciar tu tiempo y no perderlo con personas que no valoran tu compañía. De mis amigas solteras he aprendido que en muchas ocasiones es mejor estar sola que mal acompañada.
Descubrir que somos más fuerte de lo que pensamos. Pensar que sin esa persona es imposible llevar las cuentas de la casa, cambiar el caucho del coche o arreglar la tubería de la casa es algo que nos limita a ser fuertes e independientes. Descubrir que podemos hacer tareas realmente difíciles por nosotras mismas (aunque sea preguntando a un amigo) nos da una fuerza y una seguridad increíbles como persona.

Pero sobre todo he aprendido que cuando somos capaces de escucharnos entendernos y querernos a nosotros mismos, nuestra capacidad para ser feliz junto a otra persona se multiplica y siempre es recompensado. Alimentar nuestra confianza nos hace ser mejores personas y nos acerca a la persona que estamos buscando para tener a nuestro lado.


Some important things I learned from my single friend

After sharing part of my life with an adorable person for almost 14 years, i realize that there are many things in your life that practically mimic with the same person that you love. Sometimes living in a bubble of love you get lose in the life and in the form of being of that special person.

I currently have many single friends who have gone through different emotional states in a relationship, and I would love to learn the attitude of security and independence with which they have learned to live with themselves.

 I have learned from them:   To enjoy my time alone. It seems that currently saying that you go to the cinema alone, to have a drink alone or travel alone sounds like a critical level of loneliness and desperation. But it is not so, knowing how to enjoy your own company fills you with security of moments of reflection and a lot of independence.

Know how to surround yourself with the right people. And I think this comes from the idea of knowing how to appreciate your time and not lose it with people who do not value your company. From my single friends I have learned that on many occasions it is better to be alone than in bad company.

To discover that we are stronger than we think. To think that without that person it is impossible to carry the bills of the house, to change the rubber of the car or to fix the pipe of the house is something that limits us to be strong and independent.

Discovering that we can do really difficult tasks for ourselves (even by asking a friend) gives us incredible strength and security as a person.  But above all I have learned that when we are able to hear ourselves understand and love ourselves, our ability to be happy with another person multiplies and is always rewarded. Feeding our trust makes us better people and brings us closer to the person we are looking to have on our side.

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NECKLACE: HERE

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34 Comments

  • Miriam dice:

    Me ha encantado el post y el estilismo, se nota que pones pasión en cada trabajo. Me encanta besos
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  • Mª Jesús dice:

    Estas realmente impresionante en estas foto y el look es especial y muy favorecedor. Cada día te veo más guapa!!

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  • KARINA dice:

    Amiga genial este post!!! Completamente identificada! así somos, fuertes y valientes! Un besote!!!

  • AMC dice:

    Absolutely loving the stunning details in these photos! the gold and black are just a match in heaven!

  • Sarah dice:

    Vanessa you are looking stunning and I am in love with your photographs. Your Black Blazer is so chic and this whole look is styled perfectly. Also I completely agree that it is important to do things on your own and be comfortable with yourself as we grew older. I have been in a relationship for 10 years myself and only in the latter years have I felt more comfortable to do things on my own.

    Sarah

    xxxx

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  • Lacey dice:

    First of all, can I just say how stunning you are?! A true beauty with so much class and elegance. You styled this look to absolute perfection and I love every single piece! Secondly, I love that you wrote about independence and being comfortable with yourself. In my case, the moment I realized I was comfortable with being alone with my thoughts, was the moment I knew I had grown as a person and that I actually liked myself! Haha!

    Thank you for yet another inspiring post!

    xoxo,
    LACEY | http://WWW.STATEOFLACE.COM

  • Sofia dice:

    It probably sounds weird but i LOVE being alone! From spending 12 hours or more in an stressful environment with dozens of people i just enjoy the part of my day when i get to sit in my car alone, listen to my own music and then when i come home just get me time and being able to be away from everyone else.

  • Lily dice:

    Girl. Your photos are always to die for!! I LOVE that jacket and I love the way you edit your shots!

  • This is such a great post babe. I have been single now for probably almost 10 years now. I have dated and had some short term relationships but nothing I would consider substantial. After my last Long relationship I promised myself that this better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong reasons. That’s something I learned from a movie one LOL but it really resonated with me. I see a lot of people staying in relationships for the wrong reasons and being unhappy because it’s easier to stay in and get out. I have learned to be comfortable by myself and do things on my own and I rather enjoy it at times. I know I will never settle so until the right person comes along I will remain single. Thank you for sharing!!!! ❌❌❤️

  • Manda dice:

    You look absolutely stunning and your top is so beautiful! Love your thoughts on the single aspect. I’ve never experienced living alone as an adult and rarely get time to myself as a married mother but I know just how critical it is to develop your own personal relationship with you. Spurred on some good thought. Great post!

    Manda | http://EvocativelyChosen.com

  • Me encantó el post Vane!
    Btw, amo el silencio y disfrutar increiblemente de la soledad. Yo lo llamo la paz del silencio y la encuentro en cualquier parte 😉
    Besitos

    Fer
    rosaframbuesa.com

  • Tandya dice:

    Such a great post! I am obsessed with your blazer.

    The words you spoke are very beautiful. It is much better to be along than in bad company. Xo

  • Jacqueline dice:

    Such a beautiful post. I absolutely love how sexy and chic that blazer is.

  • Eva dice:

    Hello dear!!
    Thank you for your confidence!!
    Love your OFF-shoulder jacket .
    It’s fabulous and very stylish.
    XX
    Eva

    http://www.themermaidfashion.com

  • Babe,
    This post is beautiful in every way! I can tell you are a strong, independent and wise person and I admire that so much. I think it’s a wonderful thing to spend some time by yourself and enjoy the experience. And I have to say that I am so in love with your blazer top. I was wowed by it on Instagram and loved seeing more photos of you wearing it. So beautiful babe!

    Love, Liz
    stylewich.com

  • Shalini dice:

    Learning how to be comfortable on your own is very important. I have been with my partner for 10 years as well but I always make it a point to have my space once in a while. On the other note, your outfit is amazing! Love the off shoulder blazer in particular!

  • YOU ARE SO RIGHT HERE SWEETIE! IT’S TRULY A CHALLENGE TO DO SOMETHING BY YOURSELF, ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE NOT USED TO IT, BUT JUST LIKE YOU SAID, TRAVELING OR GOING TO THE MOVIES ALONE DOESN’T AT ALL MEAN YOU’RE A LONELY PERSON. QUITE THE OPPOSITE, DOING THINGS LIKE THAT GIVES ME TIME TO THINK ABOUT LIFE AND HAVE “ME TIME” WITH MYSELF AND THAT IS SOMETHING EVERYONE SHOULD EXPERIENCE. STRENGTH COMES FROM THE INSIDE AND I AM CONSTANTLY BUILDING UP THAT STRENGTH BY CHALLENGING MYSELF TO DO THINGS I WOULDN’T NORMALLY HAVE DONE.
    THANK YOU FOR A GREAT AND INSPIRATIONAL POST!
    XOXO
    THOMAS

    http://www.thomasfalkenstedt.com/

  • I think it is very important to be able to be alone, but not feel alone. Being alone gives you time to focus on yourself and your needs. Having said that, you should also surround yourself with positive and uplifting friends and family who support you and don’t bring you down. I love this outfit, by the way. This off the shoulder jacket-like top is stunning. It is already so classy and those gold buttons make it even more glam. I love the beautiful necklace that you chose to show off your clavicle area as well. I like that you dressed it down with jeans, yet it is still a chic ensemble. Xoxo, Christine
    http://dailykongfidence.com/

  • Aldora dice:

    Totally agree with your take surrounding yourself with right people as the people we choose to be with can either make or break us.

    Also, I’m obsessed with your outfit, especially that necklace! I have a soft spot for blings!

  • Jessie dice:

    I love all the photos! they are so pretty, not to mention that outfit of yours! gosh, everything in the outfit is so perfectly pretty! The necklace, the rings, the top and the boost! I love them all !

    xx, Jessie
    http://4evajessie.com/winter-meets-summer/

  • Tania dice:

    Thanks for this great post! It really applies to me currently as I am typically joined at the hip with my fiance, but he is out of town this weekend leaving me to my own devices! I don’t have a problem with being alone, more really struggle to be sociable in his absence. I love your closing statement. You’ve made me wonder if I could be happy were I not half of this whole.

    xx freshfizzle

  • Maggie dice:

    Totally agree with your post. It’s important to learn to be content and happy with yourself. I believe with that, you’ll be a lot more happy when you’re sharing it with some else.

    In other terms, I love this entire outfit from head to toe! Love that blazer top and those embroidered jeans. The photography is stunning as well!

    xoxo,
    Maggie S.
    ❤Clothestomidnight.com

  • Helen Chik dice:

    These images are stunning my love!! I totally agree that in order to grow as a person you need to be comfortable with yourself and nothing says that then being ok with spending alone time!

    Helen xx
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  • Love the jacket so much ! It is extraordinarily gorgeous! The necklace and boots are so perfectly paired and overall you look like a supermodel queen !

  • Jenny dice:

    I love everything in this post! The gorgeous jewelry and that top is OH SO FABULOUS!!

    http://www.365daysofjenny.com

  • Me dejas con la boca abierta tesoro!!! Maravillosas fotos y espectacular modelo, qué pasada… Cierto es que estar feliz consigo misma es el todo para poder estarlo con el resto, lo que uno mismo se aporta no lo hace nadie, es un error buscarlo. Lo dicho preciosa, SIN PALABRAS!
    Besitos bella y feliz finde, Emi

  • Que increíble look! Ese escote te queda de 10!

    Un besito Vane! Buen finde!
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  • Lisa Mao dice:

    This was such a thoughtful read and it really made me look back and think.
    I use to be the type of person that feared loneliness and would constantly seek out the company of others. It took me a long time to realize that bad company is never worth it and that I should learn to be comfortable with being alone – whether it be watching a movie alone or eating alone. It really made me learn to appreciate myself more and become more secure as a person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

    http://www.wanderlustts.com

    • vanetroset dice:

      Dear Lisa is good to know that you take your time to read my post! that makes me really happy. Yes sometimes just take time to realize that we can enjoy life with ourselves! kisses babe.

  • Samina Malik dice:

    Wow !
    I am blown away by the beautiful photography! You are stunning.
    The black blazer is a steal at that price its a crime!! I cannot get over how chic it looks and you wear it very well.
    The boots are gorgeous too. If I wasn’t surrounded by conservative folk I would definitely try it.

    xx
    Samina

  • Ana dice:

    Woooow! Amazing photos! I looove that blazer <3

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